Why People do not come to church anymore and their answers as to why

I invite a lot of people to church via internet and in person. I get a lot of “Um, sure.”, “Yeah I might check it out some time” “well sure when I get a day off” and the excuses go on and on. So, I decided to ask my friends and just people I have on there the “REAL” reason they don’t come, just honest answers. here is what I got back and I shortened the list to the  most popular reasons. So, here they are:

1. Fake people. They went on to explain they had visited several churches where people were friendly but they felt somewhat snubbed if they were not dressed up nicely enough and /or just did not seem to fit the “pattern”.

2. The churches that never checked back to see how they were doing. They felt if a church did not care enough to check, they did not really care.

3. Church splits. They would go to a church for a while, love it, feel all this love and then one person gets mad and the church splits. The thing that caused them to leave was because they felt if the people who left were as committed as they acted, they would have stuck it out. They said it should have been about God and his love, not about that persons anger or un-forgiveness.

4. FACEBOOK: What a shocker! Not really. Not for me anyway. They said they would meet people from church, join or see their face book and see Bible quotes, scriptures, I love God and etc. and then next they see cussing, arguing, talk about sex, half nude pics and etc. To them that was a turn off because they said they KNEW their lives were screwed up but why go to learn about God when the people there at church don’t even apply what they supposedly live.

5.Kids and the parents lack of respect for a church or the Pastor. They said that they went to churches where they saw such a lack of respect for making he kids learn that this is a place for worship and teaching kids about God. Not a daycare center.

6. IF they come to church, they will be judged or the people will smile to their face and they hear whispers behind their back. They said they have worldy friends that are better than that to them.

This is a list or REAL” reasons from real people so maybe we should all think long and hard about this list and how we live our lives. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes but be what you say you are. IF you mess up and someone knew is there, admit it. IF you have face book and talk about how great God is, do not turn around and do number 4. THEY are watching.

So, on that note, I told them I was publishing this.


The BEST invention since ice cream for hardwood floors

I struggle with my vacs which are all great but when it comes to my vinyl and hardwood floors, I have issues becaue I have a 74 lb. pup which sheds. Sooooo, after watching my hubby one afternoon, I happened upon his wet/dry vac. I got the light bulb in my head and bam! I got one (remove filter when soaking up water) and wow! It sucks up everything I do not want my good vacs destroyed with. Not only that, the suction is so good you can use it on ceilings, ceiling fans and just about anything and it comes with as many attachments as a reg vac. Now I use my good vac for carpet and such and my wet/dry vac for all my non carpet needs!

Things I have learned over the years:

Things I have learned over time in a Journey I take every day:
1. It is easy to say I forgive, but much harder to actually do.

2. The bible say’s to love your enemy but it is hard to put into practice sometimes.

3. James 1:19 and Proverbs 17:28 are verses I need to apply daily because I am quick to speak before I ever try to listen. James 1:19 – Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
Proverbs 17:28 – Even a fool, when he holdeth his peace, is counted wise: [and] he that shutteth his lips [is esteemed] a man of understanding.

4. Judge not, lest you be judged is a verse I need to live by more often.

5. I have a problem with my temper and I often find myself asking for forgiveness. Quite often, actually.

6. That I need to remember when God said, Vengeance is mine, sayeth the Lord, that I need to let him handle it instead of trying to seek it myself.

7. That having discernment is a gift that can be challenging and I have to constantly seperate my own human feelings from the spiritual feelings that God has given me.

8. That I am human also and I fail probably worse than most but that is why we are forgiven.

9. That no matter how much I try to do kind things, I will be returned with hate about 70% of the time as soon as I make that same person mad.

10. That Pastor’s are always on the cutting board, ready to be chopped up at any mistake, no matter how small.

These are the reasons that I and every other disciple of God need to be in our Bible daily and living the life we profess to live. Because, at the end of the day, God knows me and my heart. We may put up a front before others, but the very God we claim to serve knows us inside and out. Because we are human he also knows we will fail time and again. However, we should never think we are above others. We should know that when we bash or harm anyone, especially our Christian brothers and sisters, that we are supposed to be in fellowship with, that we are essentially crucifying Christ again.

What I have learned and I am still learning, is that I need to go back to serving like I was years ago, before the world and circumstances hardened my heart. When we had a small group of Youth that we were trying to show God’s love to and we served and lived the Bible daily. Then Nikki died and I said I didn’t blame God but in a way I guess I did because that is when my heart started to harden just a bit. I allowed the world to step in and I saw things with a critical eye instead of spiritual one. For none of us, whether Christian or not, has a right not to be humble. Just an insight in my daily Journey. 🙂