THE PLUS AND MINUSES OF CELLPHONES AND FACEBOOK & THE INTERNET

We can start with the plus side of both of these unique devices now available to everyone.

  1. If your car breaks down, or gets a flat tire, you have access to use your cell. You can face book anyone, anytime from computer or phone.
  2. With face book, you can stay in touch with photos or messages or etc. through face book.
  3. With cell phones, you can send text anytime to communicate if you don’t have time to talk.
  4. With face book, you can share everything from Pinterest likes to recipes and the list goes on.
  5. NOW, with the minuses:
  6. You no longer have to actually visit with anyone ever because you can cell, or face book.
  7. you can ignore anyone, anytime because you have a cell or face book if you REALLY want to reach them.
  8. You can say anything that you would not have the nerve to say to their face.
  9. No more having to go to homes and see your friends or family, you can just face book or cell.
  10. Days of coffee, tea or just actual human visits are now obsolete.
  11. you can avoid church by watching you tube.
  12. Why spend quality time with your family when so much is going on with text, internet to see what the Kardashians are doing (like that really affects your life) or you can get on face book and just look at what everyone else is saying r not saying to you and you can get mad. Then you can phone or text to say your mad, whence they can avoid you and therefore, make you madder.
  13. People can treat you anyway they want because they never have to face you.
  14. Kids do not play outside anymore.
  15. WHEN you DO have get togethers, look around. 90% of the people there are not really visiting. They are using their cells to text, face book or check out the internet.
  16. The LOST art of human contact is dead.
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UNDERSTANDIND PANIC AND ANXIETY

I just wanted to explain some of what goes on when dealing with panic and anxiety. I have been told, “Well, that is not how it really is. What you are feeling about situations are not true, be it family, the world, etc.” Well, when going through it, it is real to you. It may NOT be the actual reality but your mind is telling you it is.

I DO pray and I have been HELPED so much by that, I do listen to soothing music, I do try ALL of the things I come across to help. I do at times feel lonely, I do get scared, I do rely on God and the other forms of therapy that come along and I DO want to get better.

Having this issue makes me no less of a believer in God than someone who does not have it. It simply means I am having to start over again and regroup. It does not mean I am not aware of what others are going through or that I think I am worse off.

It simply means that my mind is telling me things and I am relying on the many ways to re train my brain. God gives us a powerful tool and it can be used by Satan to make us think we are weak but I can assure people with this issue are actually very strong. They just got caught off guard and BOOM it happened.

Be kind and supportive instead of thinking (As I have been told, that I do not have enough faith. I believe I do but maybe I am just having a harder time grasping what has been a situation I never encountered before).  I always held my own, tried to be there for others, and to help when needed.

I am human, not perfect. I am loving, loyal, and I stand behind those I love. Do not judge a situation until you have been there or you may find yourself there and then and only then can you fully understand.

Does that mean I want YOU to go through it? NO! It simply means that I would hope you can be the friend or help that the person needs at that time.

Another journey day on this road. God Bless. ūüôā

PANIC, ANXIETY & LIFE : NEW UPDATE

Okay, so it is September now and I am working through this “issue”. Good days, bad days, facing my fear, trying to recover the lost things that panic took from me. I am still on the journey but I read, study, pray and hope. I am learning ways to re train my brain and get it out of “stuck” mode.I am learning that being alone is okay but I have to manage and control my mind. I also learned “trying to get to know my anxiety” was NOT a help mate for me but it does seem to help to acknowledge it and to know that it is there and I have to deal with it, not run from it. Does that always work? No. But it has helped a lot.

I am also learning that it just is what it is and being afraid won’t change it. So, I have to accept it and go on. I know what a journey this can be but I suggest finding others who also walk this road and instead of sharing how it “feels” all the time, share ways that help you to manage it. Then, there are times when you can share how it feels without going into panic yourself.¬† It is a very strange thing to deal with and I am slowly adjusting but by no means am I “cured” yet. However, I do see some hope and I see where it can be¬†overcome. It is a place most people would never want to tread but some of us have to for whatever reason.

Keep the faith my friends and keep on hanging in there.

MY CATS HATE ME

Yes, they must. I try to pet them, they claw and bite me. I give them the best of everything, food, towers, scratch post and on and on and on and they bite and claw and scratch me.  They throw my briefcases onto the floor so the 83 lb. Shepherd can eat everything inside. They jump on my flowers in vases and, after eating them, they toss the vase with water to the floor so it can shatter into a million shreds.

They love to walk on my keyboard and delete anything I might currently be writing. They also love to wait until I am least expecting it and they bite me while purring and leave trails of blood on my back. They obviously mated with a bobcat. They love to destroy anything nice I have out while avoiding anything I could care less about.

They are sweet as sugar one minute and mauling me the next. They are alien cats I have to assume. They show no characteristics of normal cats. they have been fixed, rabies shots and feline tested. They are bought toys and well, just about spoiled to no end.

Oh well, I thought they were supposed to be aloof and yet somehow entertaining. They are entertaining if you love mass destruction. I have decided that after years of loving cats, I love my cats but maybe I should not have named them Hercules and Cujo. lol. A day in the life of my alien cats.

LIFE AND SO-CALLED FRIENDS

you will find in your life that at times you are  abundant in friends but the real test comes when you need them. In this time of your life you may find your friend list dropping from 20 to o. It is easy to post praying for you on facebook or other social media, being there on social media but it will shock you that if you actually call out for help. in a physical form, they may drop off like flies.

That is when you¬† really find your true friends. Those who, regardless of whether they are family or friends from places you met, will come at the drop of a hat. While it can be hurtful to you, take it as an advantage. You can build your strength by knowing they were fair weather friends. Then you can sort through your “real” ones (if there are any left standing and it can help you to build the inner strength that tells you YOU can do this.¬† That will be your defining moment from then on.

Do NOT allow this to bring you down. You can pray, meditate, find a new thing you love to do or get lost in the hole of depression. Do not take that path. Someone, somewhere, out there, is just as lonely as you. Find them and befriend them. I should have put that as a plus on my other blog. lol.

You are not alone. I personally, believe in God so I also make prayer my mainstay these days. You may not but that is your choice. It is my personal way of reaching out when it seems that I am sinking. Good day to all who are going through this.

ANXIETY & PANIC & RETRAINING THE BRAIN

I am going to check out this strength psychology by Mike Gillette I found. So far pretty interesting. Because bottom line, people don’t like weak people. Whether it is a mind thing or otherwise, it actually scares them I think. The worst part of having your mind shattered is coming back. Being that I was a strong person mentally for so long, this has been a mind tipper for me. BUT with prayer and friendship and love from those who give it, I pray God will help me back with methods of control and true friends, be they family or friends, will be the ones who can handle it and do not mind being there. Most have known me before this all happened and they know I am a person of action who likes to help and be there for others so that is my post for the moment. lol.

PANIC &anxiety; ANXIETY WEEKLY JOURNAL

Well, this time of the last week or so was a plop. But I hung in there, I had good moments and bad moments and I had days I could have pulled my hair out and days I thought a nervous breakdown was on the way but I did all of my ways of dealing and hung in there. I even had to resort to meds. I exercised,  I got angry, I cried, I laughed and then I kept telling myself, you can do this. I prayed, I did Hypnosis , I used my calming music and my music that uses binaural to lift your emotions. I used every method I could think of.

The upside is that I did stay sane. Thank God for that. I am learning that I have to let set backs, be just that, set backs until I am finally able to get past this stupid issue that plagues me. Just wanted to check in with my fellow sufferers and say, yes, it can be done. It is hard, it takes a lot of work, it IS a mind game but NOT a mental illness. It is simply challenging your mind to stop those negative thoughts on the days when you feel you could freak. Still one more heart test and then I will know this IS all a panic thing. Good day my friends.