The life of a Pastor’s Wife and the unrealistic expectations

So, I have read and studied and ask other Pastor’s wives how they do it and I was surprised to find that many are like me.  Okay, so I was NOT born to be the wife of a Pastor. By that I mean, I never knew God was going to put me in that role. I lived a pretty bold life in my teens and young adult years and I was not who you would expect to see nor would you have imagined my husband EVER becoming a Pastor. But God turned our lives around and here we are from Youth Leaders to he being a Pastor.

As I found from so many other Pastor’s wives, we are put on a level we have no place on nor do we desire to be there. YES, we will do anything we can to help. Yes, we serve God at home and church. Yes, we love our church but many told me to also be honest about who I am as a human. Yes, I am still a human.

So here goes. This is who I am as Pastor Dan’s wife:

I like to shoot guns. I went yesterday after 20 years. may have damaged my ear drums but I can still get center shot.

I like scary movies. Yep. I do. Never ones with demon content or possession but yes, I like some.

I get frustrated.

I am battling things that any human battles at times no matter how “Godly” you are. Has God failed me? NO! I just am not able to do anything but lean on his mercy to help me overcome.

I am brutally honest (working on that one).

I do not care if you know I falter because no one is perfect.

I am caring, loyal, loving and I always feel such compassion for abused children and animals.

I am me. I love people, I love our church, I love my husband and I of course love God.

BUT I am human, prone to mistakes and I pray daily for my failures. hat is who I am.


Okay, it has been good and it has been some bad. I am using all of my methods as you have read before but I am also teaching the brain God gave me that I am in c0ontrol of it. There ARE days I feel the ship is sinking but then I pull that anchor up with my bare hands and say, NO! Stop that! because WE can beat this. Do NOT allow the fear to overcome you. It truly IS all in our mind.

When we take the focus off of the negative, we begin to plant that seed and watch it grow stronger each day. Do whatever it takes when your mind starts to fixate whether it is a book, or a picture to color, yes, I said that, or drawing or whatever. Pick it up and do it. I always use my white door now vs. black door (earlier post) and I also stop it IF and WHEN I can before it starts.

IF I feel it coming, I do my methods but I don’t fight it as much anymore. I face by saying I know it is there but I control it. It does NOT matter if we are fully healed but we can be and let go of this fear. It is not something we need in our lives. Face  your negative with a positive. Make your negative into a POSITIVE!

Stay AWAY from people who insult you, hassle you about what you believe or people who in a “sweet” way, say things that they KNOW will upset you. Those things we do NOT need. So for today, let us focus on our POSITIVE. Tell yourself and MEAN it that you are good, that you can and will do this, that you are a GREAT person! 🙂 HOOYAH!!!